5 Tips For Great Self-Esteem
by: Sonia Devine
Do you wish you had high self-confidence? Some of us go through
our life fighting against that feeling that we are just 'not good
enough'. We convince ourselves that we don't matter and that we
don't deserve to amount to anything..but what price do we pay?
The fact is that many people are lacking is self-esteem, yet feel
powerless to do anything about it. Poor self esteem needs to be
addressed with a vengeance; it affects your emotional and physical
wellbeing and really reduces the quality of your life. So it's
time to take action and raise the bar right now. Here are some
tips to help you get started:
ONE: 'Not Good Enough' Compared To Whom?
Fair question? Alright thenI have a challenge for you: The
next time you start to berate yourself for 'not being good enough',
I want you to ask yourself: 'what exactly is my benchmark'? Be
specific; to what or whom, have you compared yourself to reach
the conclusion that you are not good enough? If you can learn
nothing else from reading this article, then know this; constantly
comparing yourself with other people is a no-win exercise! So
the next time you fall into this futile habit, take a breath and
say to yourself:
"I like and respect myself exactly as I am"
TWO: Everybody Hates Me
'Everybody hates me, nobody likes me, I'm going out the back
to eat worms...' Do you remember that song? As children, we used
to sing this over and over, and then fall to the ground laughing
hysterically...but the sad truth is that feeling as though the
world is against you is no laughing matter. So how do you get
around that feeling? Well, one way is to cultivate the habit of
assumption. Here's how it works;
I meet lots of new people every week in my line of work. Now,
I could get myself into a fluster worrying about whether or not
they will like me and whether or not they will respect my opinion.but
I know from experience, that this is futile. So to make my life
easier, I make a conscious effort to assume then every person
I meet will like me...and that I will like them.
This technique works because what you give out comes back to
you; communication is 55% body language, and people pick up on
your internal signals. Think how much easier it is going to be
to always meet people who like you! It certainly beats being in
a constant state of panic.
THREE: What if what if What if
Are you a 'what-if-maniac'? Do you imagine the worst possible
scenario for every situation you encounter? If so, you could be
worrying yourself into an early grave. Next time you get an attack
of the 'what-ifs', I would like you to create in your mind's eye,
a 'What-if-box'. This box has a one way opening, and each time
you have a negative thought or emotion of the catastrophizing
kind, send it straight through that one-way opening of your what-if-box.
The worrying thoughts will still be there if you need to go back
and re-visit them, so just let them stay in the box; and while
they are in there, you will be free to get on with the important
things in your life!
FOUR: Know Thy Self
What does self-esteem mean for you? What do you need to do,
say or be to gain greater confidence and self-reliance? More importantly,
how can you improve if you don't know this? You need to get clear
about what you want and only then can you begin to make plans
to get it. Write it down and while you are doing this, remember
to write down what you want, not what you don't want. This is
the language your subconscious mind understands.
When you concentrate on self-development and make plans, you
gain a sense of control over your destiny, and it helps you to
feel better about yourself. So start writing today!
FIVE: Stand Tall
Do you stand with your back straight and your shoulders square?
Or do you look at the ground when you walk and hunch over? If
you want to be confident, then start with your body language.
Send the message to your subconscious mind that you matter; watch
your physical posture straighten up, walk tall and look
other people straight in the eye when you talk to them. You'll
be amazed at how this small thing can make all the difference;
and furthermore, other people will sense your charisma-oozing
body language and begin to treat you differently. Try this today;
it works!
About The Author: Sonia Devine is a qualified professional
hypnotherapist and success coach with a caring and committed approach
to healing, who lives in Melbourne, Australia. You can find more
of her information on confidence, self image, love, relationships,
hypnosis and much more on her website http://www.manifest-your-success.comCopyright
2005 Sonia Devine
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